We aren't all successful theater directors like Charlie (Adam Driver), but we are obsessed with our own success and driven by our work. We aren't all married to Nicole (Scarlett Johansson), a once famous-ish young actress from a successful teen movie, but we may very well feel trapped in a life of the things we never explored. And we probably couldn't afford lawyers like Nora Fanshaw (Laura Dern) or Jay Marotta (Ray Liotta). Dern and Liotta steal one scene together that is simply a powerhouse of character acting, vicious, funny, and, like most things in this film, true.
We might need, and probably should hire, more of a Bert Spitz (Alan Alda), someone willing to admit the nastiness of divorce proceedings in kindness, but we are children of divorce and sadness or we may be divorced ourselves, and/or we've fought with our spouses and we know how real it feels when we're staring at the end of something so special, losing sight of it, finding it again, allowing ourselves to feel pain because the love on the other side is/was/has been so good. At one point, in the performance of the year, Driver, as Charlie, sings those lines from Sondheim's "Being Alive" (from the musical Company), and we are moved by the need of a song to soothe us, or to help us let it all out, or in, and that all the regret would be worth it.
Nicole is a good mother but wants the freedom to grow professionally, a certainly common story. In her performance, we see moments highlighting the divide between regret and resolve. We see the difficulty in a marriage's give-and-take and fully realize that we often feel as if we are holding back to give to our partner and vice versa. Johansson is being undersold here. She is vital to the movie's success and great with Driver. Nicole's side of the story draws us into the often unnoticed power-dynamic in marriages that favors the man (in this and most cases), as Dern's character rants: "So, you have to be perfect, and Charlie can be a fuck up and it doesn't matter. You will always be held to a different, higher standard. And it's fucked up, but that's the way it is."
Baumbach's film invites us into the intimacies of Charlie and Nicole, and their son Henry, warmly. It lets us feel and react to every turn in its central tension, a divorce between two good people. It comments certainly on what the process of divorce does to people who should be focused on being less self-involved, present, better parents (they can hardly deal with their son's struggles with reading), lovers, people. But there's a good reason this film is not called Divorce Story. It's because of Baumbach's touch as a writer and director, his camera solemnly observant in this case, less active and stylish than in this film's clear spiritual prequel, the 2005 "divorce story" from the child's perspective, Baumbach's "The Squid and the Whale. It lets us into moments of love so perfectly placed that we would just as soon forget all that just to remember that all of it is simply, well, "being alive."
There are detractors, to be sure, people finding Driver's performance and one particular fight scene unrealistic. How lucky are those people! But, still, I wonder how many of them (us) are living with fist-size holes in our walls. I wonder how many of us have begged for forgiveness on our knees, weeping. I wonder how many of us realize that the sort of love that brings us to the sort of emotional highs and lows of Charlie and Nicole is what it's all about.
In all the complication, it's simple really: Marriage Story is the best movie of the year.
I really want to see this as I'm hoping to see as soon as I can as soon as possible as I have other things to finish.ReplyDelete
It's right there on the Netflix. And is so great. Hope you get to it soon.Delete
I loved this movie (and I hear you on watching a movie in pieces with a child) Adam Driver was outstanding, I'm really enjoying the current Driver season going on. lolReplyDelete
Driver is having quite a few moments lately. I love the guy. He has been so consistently great in the last few years.Delete
Excellent review! This is my best movie of the year too, but I still have some left to watch, I don't have high hopes for them thoReplyDelete
Thanks! I'm really digging 2019 as a movie year anyway. I've seen so many great ones lately (Ford v Ferrari, Knives Out, The Irishman). I don't think much else will get me, though I'm looking forward to Uncut Gems and Little Women (weird combo) the most.Delete